Jesse Bishop Gay, Jr.
Captain, United States Navy
In his final active-duty assignment, Captain
Gay was director of strike warfare in the office of the chief of naval
operations and was the office's representative to a surface-to-air missile
study group that initiated the development of the Aegis missile system.
The son of a Navy officer, Captain Gay was a native of Hackensack, New Jersey, and a 1935 graduate of the U.S. Naval Academy in Annapolis, where he was on the tennis and wrestling teams.
During World War II, he served in Europe escorting troops across the English Channel and bombarding the French coast during the D-Day invasion.
Toward the war's end, he was third in seniority on the heavy cruiser Augusta as it carried Truman to the 1945 Potsdam Conference to meet with Soviet leader Joseph Stalin and British Prime Minister Winston Churchill.
Captain Gay also was a White House aide to Truman, officer-in-charge of Shangri-La (now Camp David) and executive officer of the presidential yacht Williamsburg.
"When the president went swimming off the Williamsburg, I was his unofficial lifeguard," he told the Washington Times in 1995. "He always made out well, except one time someone gave him inflatable swimming trunks, which he tried out by jumping into the water. His rear end went up and his head went down. I had to help get him out."
Captain Gay was commanding officer of the destroyer Stickell during the Korean War and in the late 1950s held division commands. His decorations included the Legion of Merit and the Bronze Star.
He was a member of Army Navy Country Club in Arlington, where he ran tennis tournaments, and he raised funds for Capital Hospice in Arlington. Until recent months, he lived in the Westmoreland Square neighborhood in Falls Church, where a park was named in his honor.
His marriage to Barbara Slingluff Gay ended in divorce.
Survivors include his wife of 31 years, Gwendolen
Mouser Gay of Arlington; four children from the first marriage, Miriam
Crawford and Kaethe Gay, both of Acworth, Georgia, Jesse B. Gay III of
Playa Tamarindo, Costa Rica, and Tom Slingluff of Concord, North Carolina;
five stepchildren, Dr. Sands K. Irani of Bethesda, Geoffrey Irani of Columbia,
Terry Irani of Rockville, Wendy Underwood of Princess Anne, Md., and Grant
Irani of Phoenix, Maryland; 13 grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren.
On Friday, May 5, 2006 of Falls Church, Virignia.
Survivors include his wife, two daughters, two sons, three grandchildren,
five step-children and their families. Friends are asked to assemble at
the administration Building at Arlington National Cemetery on Wednesday,
June 28, 2006 at 10:30 a.m. followed by graveside services at 11 a.m. Memorial
contributions may be made to Capitol Hospice.