There are a number of reasons why writing out your thoughts and feelings in the form of a letter prior to an intervention may be effective in helping your addicted loved one to really hear what you are trying to share with her.
It can help you to organize your thoughts, and stop you from going off track or forgetting something important that you wanted to say. You can read it yourself at the intervention, or you can hand it off to another participant if you can’t be in attendance.
Whatever your reason for choosing to write an intervention letter, here are some helpful hints that can aid you in keeping it simple, strong, and to the point – the best representation of your hope for your loved one’s future in addiction recovery.
- Speak from the heart.
- Keep your letter short.
- Emphasize that addiction is a disease.
- Avoid language that is judgmental or blaming in nature.
- Stay positive.
- Avoid becoming overly emotional.
- Offer the gift of treatment.
- Make it clear what will change on your part if your loved one refuses treatment.
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Thank you for giving me the chance to talk to you today. There are so many things that I want to say to you and share with you but it basically comes down to this: I’m worried about your drug and alcohol use, and it’s time to seek treatment.
Before you began drinking and using, we were so close. There was nothing I couldn’t tell you, and we always had a great time together. You were my best friend in so many ways, but after years of drinking and drug use, I barely see that happy, fun person anymore. You seem sad, you’re struggling with your health and with the stress caused by using, and every day I see the problems that addiction is causing you pile up higher and higher. I’m worried every day that you’re going to end up in the hospital or dead or in the back of a police car. I want to do everything I can to help you get back to a place of health – of just being okay without drugs and alcohol.
We’ve talked about treatment 100 times before, but today is different. Today, I am hoping you will accept the opportunity to leave immediately to get help. Your addiction is not your fault. You can’t help the chemical changes that take place in your brain when you drink or get high. Addiction is a wicked disease. It changes everything about how you think, what you want, what you love, and who you are. But because it is a medical disorder, there is medical treatment available to help you overcome it. You don’t have to keep living like this. There is help available.
If you choose not to go to rehab today, I want you to know that I will always love you – but I will not be able to stand by and watch you kill yourself anymore. I’ve learned that giving you money, calling into work or to your parole officer to cover for you, and a lot of other things that I do for you regularly because I love you are only helping you to remain in addiction. If you choose not to get help, I’m not going to do those things anymore. If you do choose to go to rehab, however, I promise you that I will be there to support you and help you in any way I can. Either way, I love you.
If your loved one is struggling, let us help you connect her to a treatment program that can help her heal prior to staging her intervention. Call 844-768-1248 now for more information.
David W. Newton is a board certified pharmacist and also has been a board member for boards of examiners for the National Association of Boards of Pharmacy since 1983. His areas of expertise are primarily pharmaceuticals as well as cannabinoids. You can read an article about his expertise in CBD on the National Library of Medicine.
Reviewed by: Kim Chin and Marian Newton